Hold On To Your Integrity.
“I’m standing on top of my hotel roof, deciding whether to jump and end it all or not!”
My heart stopped dead, as I read these words in the email.
This was the person I loved more than anyone else in this world , apart from my significant other.
This was the person that had taught me and numerous others so much about life and the universe.
This was the person that had written a well accepted book, had hosted many seminars, travelled the world and literally mixed with the VIP’s . He had personally met with people ranging from Madonna to Uri Geller to……..
What the heck was going on? I wanted to jump on the next available plane to help him, but, I did not even know which country he was in, let alone on top of which hotel he was standing.
I felt so powerless.
I read on. Obviously, he had for the moment shelved his plans to jump, as he had actually written this e mail. I didn’t feel relieved, just started believing in a faint glimmer of hope all of a sudden.
My heart had definitely started again, as it was now racing and pounding in my chest. I read on and on……..Where the heck was he, he didn’t say?
Back to an e mail I received 2 months prior:
“I am sitting on the beach here in this beautiful tropical island, sipping a fruit cocktail, next to – wait for it Miss Chec Republic (lets call her “H”). I met her after last night’s modelling shoot. She is here on holiday with her family, and ……I think I might be falling in love.”
They did fall in love, moved to Europe together to pursue their love and work on their careers. (All in the space of 6 weeks!) She was well established and financially well off, in the family business, he had speaking engagements in a country close by.
They commuted to each other every weekend to spend time together.
And so the nightmare started.
Her family did not approve of him. After all he was of a different culture.
She did not want to move to where he was holding his seminars, he was unable to conduct his seminars in her country because he couldn’t speak cheq.
A solution was needed, after all they were in love.
So they did what any normal couple would do, they rode of into the sunset together.
Well actually they flew to Dubai, to see if they could build up a mutual career there and work on their relationship.
“There is nothing for us here” said the last email I got from him. “You need to be a civil engineer or something to that effect to really be happy here. The cultures are so different, that I could never do my Seminars here. Also her business, ( which is beauty orientated) would not survive here.
We actually don’t know what to do. In addition to this H has started to act strange.
She is not prepared to drop her standards to work on our mutual future (she spent $2000 just on trinkets in the duty free shop alone). Also she booked out of the 3 star hotel we were in and insisted on moving to a 5 star expensive luxury hotel.
I can’t afford this, and feel very uncomfortable living off her. Now she wants to decide what we will do next. Also her dad offered me money to leave her.
I love her, but I am confused …..”
That was the last I heard, until I received the email about jumping from the roof.
What the heck had happened here?
He fell in love with a dream, and compromised his personal integrity and value system to be with her, to live his “dream”. I can only assume that he eventually cracked under the pressure of trying to be something he wasn’t, or wanted to be.
What happened next, where he went what he did, I have no clue.
Fortunately he phoned his brother, saying he was stranded without money in a foreign country, could he help. His brother phoned me, and I immediately wired him some money, hoping to get him out of the situation.
Here’s holding thumbs. It will be a long worrying easter weekend!
So the moral of the story.
Be awake as to what you are getting into. Realize that sometimes the odds against you are just too overwhelming, to make it worthwhile.
And remember the email about abundance- there is someone out there just right for you, you don’t ( and shouldn’t) try and force things. If too much goes wrong, maybe its the universe trying to tell you something?
Remember to keep on loving
above based on a true story)
Fact: Most people are in unhappyrelationships.
Joke of the week:
Is the wife in control?
Everybody on earth dies and goes to heaven. God comes and says “I want the men to make two lines. One line for the men that dominated their women on earth and the other line for the men that were whipped by their women. Also, I want all the women to go with St Peter.”
Said and done, the next time God looks the women are gone and there are two lines. The line of the men that were whipped was 100 miles long, on the line of men that dominated women there was only one man.
God got mad and said. “You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I created you in my image, and you were all whipped by your mates. Look at the only one of my sons that stood up and made me proud, Learn from him!” Tell them my son how did you manage to be the only one on that line?
The man said, “I don’t know. My wife told me to stand here.”